NARCiSSiSTiC ABUSE doesn’t have to spoil your life
Not sure if he or she is a narcissist or just a jerk?
THE JOY OF EX: Freedom from relationship tyranny, control and manipulation.
When you are manipulated or treated badly, labels are less important than knowing that something needs to change. However, you can’t change anyone else but changing your thoughts and actions is under your control and something you can do.
You have options, but turning a jerk, sociopath, psychopath, or narcissist into prince charming isn’t one of them.
If the abuse is wearing you down, plan your exit. If you aren’t certain you can do so, pat yourself on the back for getting this far. The future may be bumpy, but if you think things through and keep emotions under control, don’t rush or make rash decisions, you can do it.
TIP: When leaving, don’t enrage and don’t engage. Stay calm; now is not the time to push buttons or get revenge.
All the things you wanted to know and need to know, because it’s time to take care of yourself:
Ann Bradley, M.A University of Pennsylvania, Antioch College, Stanford University
How You Got Here and How To Not Make the Same Mistake
You do not have to be the victim of narcissism (narcissistic personality disorder) forever. You don’t have to lose your confidence, hope and passion for life because you are in a relationship with a narcissist. This experience can be a catalyst for growth and self respect and learning how to cope with difficult events and circumstances. You can learn the skills to move beyond.
If you aren’t sure why you picked an abuser or how you got yourself in this position, you will feel better if you learn why. Understanding this can be a relief, and help you now and in the future.
Knowing the characteristics can help you so you never are involved, ever again, in a toxic relationship. Find out what the research says and how this can help you. When you understand you will find this will help you become happier, more self assured and you will not blame yourself, but will make good decisions and have good relationships.
TIP: Don’t enrage the narcissist in your life. He or she will make you pay. Stay calm and plan your exit. Don’t give in to ‘letting it all out’. Narcissists don’t forget and they like revenge. Your ‘outing’ of him or her adds to his narcissistic injury. A narcissist needs to look good in front of others and you gain nothing by proving he is not the best, smartest, wealthiest, most capable person he wants tobe seen as.
You have a right to a life without fear, anger, betrayal and put downs. The part of what makes someone a victim of narcissistic abuse is not cast in stone. Flexibility is at the core of human life and the ability to reinvent one’s self can be tapped into to leave the abusive situation.
Life isn’t always fair, but it can be good. I wrote this guide for women who want a good life and who want to make peace with their past so the future will be good, and want to laugh again. Embrace the joy, it’s yours for the taking: