by Samuel Lopez De Victoria, Ph.D. The extreme narcissist is the center of his own universe. To an extreme narcissist, people are things to be used. It usually starts with a significant emotional wound or a series of them culminating… Continue Reading
The Smartest Advice is Often From a Peer and Not a Lawyer When Divorcing a Narcissist People send me information, tips and tricks to share with others because it has worked for them. Here’s an email from a woman whose… Continue Reading
Being Right and Proving It: Engage Your ‘Fight Back’ Gene In a speech at Wheaton College, Carl Sagan spoke of how we share 99.6% of our active genes with chimpanzees. He described male chimps as aggressive, female chimps he says… Continue Reading
Rendezvous With Ethics “A practicing lawyer has a constant and perpetual rendezvous with ethics.” McClure v Donovan (1947) 82 Cal App 2nd 664, 666. Don’t we all? Lawyers, judges, litigants, therapists, doctors, mothers, fathers, kids, spouses. All of us. Why… Continue Reading
It is really easy to feel like a doormat in a relationship with a narcissist. My alchemy came as an unexpected gift from my narcissist. Problems, failures and disappointments, when put into the proper perspective, make alchemists of us all.… Continue Reading
By Ann Bradley Get Your Power Back When you’re being played you feel out of control. The lies and manipulation and betrayals hurt. The games played by narcissists cut deep wounds and sometimes,no matter how many successes, how much money… Continue Reading
DIVORCING A NARCISSIST MAKES EVERY PROBLEM WORSE There is nothing quite like divorcing an uncooperative narcissist or jerk. This person can be male or female but don’t panic – plan. Planning begins with learning, strategy and tactics. In the planning… Continue Reading
Communication with and talking to a narcissist so you don’t fall apart is both art and skill. From their word salad to the verbal put-downs and constant verbal manipulations you have a moving target to deal with. Take a deep… Continue Reading
A question yesterday made me think about this topic, so I decided to address it here. “He’s always in my thoughts. I can’t stop thinking about him. I can’t go on like this.” “He is still abusive. I need help.… Continue Reading
Maybe you’ve tried setting boundaries, making compromises, thinking, “If I act nicer, things will get better.” Maybe you vow to be a survivor, not a victim, but it hasn’t happened yet. Narcissistic abuse wears you down. Therapists and family think… Continue Reading